Your Teen At Bedtime

Remember your teenage days?  You just wanted to sleep on Saturday morning.  In fact, no matter what you did on a Friday night, you still wanted to sleep in on Saturday morning...Come Saturday night, however, you were ready to party.  Then, Sunday night would show up and you had to go to bed on time.  Alas, your body wanted to stay up.  It's mother nature's way of keeping count...sleep deficit-wise, at the giant sleep bank in the sky.  

Now, you're a mother yourself.  You're yakking at your own teen to get some shut-eye.  Can you remember yourself at this age?  Mom/Dad: don't forget your own zzzzzzs as you administer the "orders...."  Meantime, check in with our expert, Nyiri Grigorian as she helps you remember the days...


There are so many articles written on the drama of teens and bedtime and the need for sleep.

Studies have clearly shown the link between sleep deprivation and depression in teens;

as well as sleep deprivation resulting poor academic performance.

Here are some interesting facts:

Adolescents become nocturnal.

When your teenager is feeling sleep deprived they are more prone to moodiness, crankiness, and aggression.

Sleepiness makes your teen vulnerable.

Their feelings of self worth decrease and they may experience fluctuations in self-esteem.

Sleep deprivation can make teens feel that problems are insurmountable.

The problem solving and reasoning centers of the brain are impaired.

So why another article here?

Because at bedtime parents are distraught and worrying about what will happen if my kid doesn't get enough sleep and I am also up all night. 

It's a relationship issue.

Do you hound and nag your 15 year old to get to bed?

Do you wait up all hours of the night or sleep restlessly while hearing laughter coming from their rooms?

Are you being treated badly by your angry, tired teen?

Nothing feels more insurmountable than convincing your teenager that staying up late at night can interfere with school performance and their emotional health.

Sunday night is purgatory.

That Sunday morning sleep-fest gives way to horrible Monday morning blues for all of you.

What to do?

The use of naps is helpful during this developmental time frame, it helps them regroup.

Some teens sleep for a bit after school and then do homework etc.

Some do some TV watching as a form of a nap.

The idea of catch up sleep for teens is not why they sleep late on weekends.

Teens love to sleep in the morning.  It's wiring.

Parents; take care of yourself.

Create a bedtime atmosphere in the house at night.

Set boundaries and encourage the shut down of social media by midnight.

Yes. They will probably not cooperate.

If you have educated your teen and discussed this openly in a calm moment and nothing changes, remember -- they hear you, they just don't dialogue.